How to be Incredible in Bed
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Play with sex positions
Teach him what you mature swingers uk like. Work out your own three favourite positions, then tell him that tonight you’re in charge. Guide him from one position to the other, planning your moves ahead of time – he can then lie back and enjoy himself!
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Optimise your orgasms Mix mature swingers video and match. Most women don’t come through intercourse alone, so during lovemaking, get him – or you – to touch your clitoris too. Try out different rates and rhythms to find out what really works for you.
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Go for more than one. Many women find that the second orgasm is easier than the first. So bring yourself off for your initial climax, then lie back and relax while he does some work.
Get him to push you to the ‘plateau’ phase where you are almost ready to come and then stop. Two or three such waits will make the climax, when it comes, almost unbearably good.
Make it great for your man
Discover his buttons. Ask him what one unexpected spot drives him wild – his nipples, the small of his back, behind his ears – and then attack that mercilessly!
Give him a quickie.
While most men like long slow lovemaking, the sheer excitement (and the fact of not having to hold back) makes a quickie a lovely treat. So dress for ease of entry, choose a time and place that makes for fast sex and jump on him.
Find his frenulum
Frenulum is that little bit of skin just below the head of the penis, on the ‘seam side’. This is his most sensitive part, so give it lots of attention…pressing with your fingers during a hand job, flicking it when you give a tongue job.
Make him wait.
Like you, he can be driven wild by a little suspense. So when you’re using your hands or mouth, get him really going, and then pause between strokes for just a few heartbeats – he’ll end up begging for it.